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Foreword to My Book on Self-Improvement
Aside from the values of faith and self-belief my mother instilled in me, one key element of personal growth and development that was embedded in me long before I joined the self-improvement bandwagon was lifelong learning. My parents taught my siblings and me the value of education, the importance of learning new things and skills, and the need to always strive to be the best and strongest we could be to fulfill our dreams and ambitions.
I believed them to the point that when I had already acquired the degrees I wanted, I looked for a new jar of knowledge where I could dip my fingers. I pushed it further when I realized I had been doing much to improve my health and acquire new skills. I decided to focus on personal growth and development.
At first, my affair with self-improvement was just a fling. I thought it was enough that I read self-help books. However, I was not satisfied. I thought adding positive thinking to my faith, self-belief, and lifelong learning was enough. I was wrong. I wanted more.
Then, the unexpected happened. My romance with self-improvement took a serious turn after I watched a film entitled “The Secret.” I saw the movie’s DVD by accident. The store owner mixed it with other genres of film. When I bought it, I had no idea what it was. There was no synopsis or a brief note explaining anything about it. That was it. Everything was what the title suggests—SECRET.
I wondered whether it was a mystery-thriller or a sci-fi movie. When I played it, I discovered it was a “self-help” film—technically a documentary.
I must admit that I initially considered the ideas presented to be preposterous. Things
from the beginning of the film, what I saw and heard seemed lifted straight from the pages of a science fiction book, but they also tickled my curiosity, perhaps because I love science fiction.
I continued watching, tried to be open-minded, and considered the information in the film as tips for personality development. I have always considered anything that advocates positive change worth my time and effort. I watched it a second time and rewatched some interesting segments a few more. After that, I began applying the valuable tips I had learned from the movie. I even shared the ideas I discovered with my students whenever I saw a connection to the topic’s content.
Then I decided to do an Internet search for one of the speakers, the one who spoke first in the movie – Bob Proctor. That Internet search led me to his motivational videos on YouTube and links to information and videos of other motivational speakers such as Jim Rohn, Wayne Dyer, Les Brown, Joe Dispenza, John Assaraf, Brendon Burchard, Brian Tracy, Zig Ziglar, Tony Robbins, Simon Sinek, Tom Bilyeu, John Maxwell, Jordan Peterson, Jay Shetty, Andrew Huberman and Mel Robbins. I heard them mention Napoleon Hill, Earl Nightingale, and Earl Shoaff, which led me to find them online.
They were all my professors at VU (Virtual University). I religiously watched the videos they posted on their social media platforms, and they taught me well. I consider them my mentors in personal growth and development. Through them, I learned much about constructs related to self-improvement and Positive Psychology—goal-setting, planning, decision-making, time management, well-being, mindset, personal accountability, lifelong learning, good thinking, positive thinking, self-discipline, and more.
I consider them my mentors. They taught me valuable lessons I never learned in school. Thanks to them, I realized that in striving to be the best I can be, as my parents instructed, there are attitudes and beliefs I must pursue and possess, skills and abilities I must learn and acquire, and practices
and activities I must carry out and perform. I realized how essential they are for achieving one’s full potential and becoming the best.
Seeing how personal growth and development have benefited me personally and professionally, and recognizing that, as a teacher, I can help my students and influence my loved ones and dear friends to experience the same, I have embraced self-improvement as an act of advocacy. I am committed to promoting it. There may be those my mentors from VU could not reach, but whom I may be able to. I strive to do so in my humble ways.
To the best of my ability, I aim to plant seeds of motivation and inspiration in others, encouraging them to recognize their potential and embrace the transformative power of self-improvement. I believe that each interaction, no matter how small, has the potential to spark a profound change in someone’s life. Whether through teaching, writing, or engaging in meaningful conversations, I see every opportunity as a chance to leave a positive imprint on those I encounter.
In doing so, I am trying to carry forward the legacy of my mentors, whose wisdom and guidance have shaped my journey. Their influence reminds me that advocacy is not confined to grand gestures but is often reflected in our quiet, consistent efforts to uplift those around us.
My mission is to reach individuals who may feel unseen or undervalued and empower them to believe in their capacity to grow and succeed.
In my classes, I actively seek opportunities to instill the value of striving to improve. I do the same in informal discussions with friends, loved ones, and sometimes strangers. Whenever I have the chance to discuss self-improvement, I seize it without hesitation.
My approach is grounded in the belief that the desire to grow and evolve is universal, and all it often takes is a spark—a meaningful word, a shared experience, or a heartfelt conversation—to ignite that desire in someone.
It reminds me of how those simple compliments from a couple of teachers in high school inspired me to study harder.
I also write essays on personal growth and development, which I post on my websites and social media accounts. When I realized how much I had already written on the subject, the idea of writing a self-improvement book emerged. I decided to compile and interconnect everything I had written about personal growth and development into a book.
My motivation for writing this book is clear: I want to offer a guide that could help readers like you achieve their full potential, be the best and strongest version of themselves, and attain fulfillment by achieving what they desire. I also had my students in mind when I began working on this book. I hope they and other young people like them will read this book like you.
It is not luck or chance that gets you to the fulfillment of dreams and desires—it is learning the right strategies and applying the focus, determination, and passion you need to pursue your personal and professional endeavors. The future is yours to take.
My book is divided into three parts, each focusing on different aspects of self-improvement. In Part I, I discuss beliefs and attitudes; in Part II, I cover skills and abilities; and in Part III, I examine practices and activities.
I collectively refer to beliefs and attitudes as a value system, skills and abilities as a competence framework, and practices and activities as a habit scheme.
The world needs people willing to rise to their full potential, lead purposefully, and contribute to something greater. I believe you are one of those people.
As you read through the following pages, I hope you will find the encouragement, insight, and tools you need to take the next step in your journey. My goal is to inspire you to view your personal and professional goals not as impossible dreams, but as inevitable outcomes that await your dogged determination to succeed.
This book is both a reflection of my journey and an invitation to join me on the path to unlocking the greatness within you. I do not feel like I am already the best version of myself. Thus, my journey towards unlocking my full potential has not ended yet. If you have not started with yours, now is the time to begin.
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This foreword is only the beginning. If you wish to go deeper into the ideas shared here, my book on self-improvement is available on Amazon. May it serve as a companion in your own journey.
The Self-Improvement Paradigm
This video explains my proposed self-improvement paradigm. This conceptual model served as my guide in writing the book “A Paradigm For Self-Improvement.”
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DT4RGQ9H
A Paradigm For Self-Improvement: Unleashing Your Strongest Self
This is my book, which has been officially published by Amazon. Please check it out. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DT4RGQ9H
To GOD be the GLORY!
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FOREWORD
Aside from the values of faith and self-belief that my mother effectively inculcated in me, one key element of personal growth and development embedded into my system even long before I joined the self-improvement bandwagon was lifelong learning. My parents kept telling my siblings and me the value of education, the need to learn new things and skills, and the importance of always striving to be the best and strongest we could be to fulfill our dreams and ambitions.
I believed them to the point that when I had already acquired the degrees I wanted, I looked for a new jar of knowledge where I could dip my fingers. I pushed it further when I realized I had been doing much related to improving my health and acquiring new skills. I decided to focus on personal growth and development.
At first, my affair with self-improvement was just a fling. I thought it was enough that I read self-help books. However, I was not satisfied. I thought adding positive thinking to my faith, self-belief, and lifelong learning was enough. I was wrong. I wanted more.
Then, the unexpected happened. My romance with self-improvement took a serious turn after I watched a film entitled “The Secret.” I saw the DVD of the movie only by accident. The store owner mixed it with other genres of film. When I bought it, I had no idea what it was. There was no synopsis or a brief note explaining anything about it. That was it… everything was what the title suggests—SECRET.
I wondered if it was a mystery thriller or a sci-fi movie. When I played it, I discovered it was a “self-help” film—technically a documentary. I must admit that I first considered the ideas presented preposterous. From the beginning of the film, what I saw and heard appeared as if lifted straight from the pages of a science fiction book, but they also tickled my curiosity, perhaps because I love science fiction.
I continued watching, tried to be open-minded, and thought of the information in the film as tips for personality development. I have always considered anything that advocates positive change worth my time and effort. I watched it a second time, and some exciting segments were a few more. After that, I started using valuable tips I learned from the movie. I even shared the ideas I discovered with my students whenever I saw a connection to the contents of our topic.
Then I decided to do an Internet search for one of the speakers, the one who spoke first in the movie – Bob Proctor. That Internet search led me to his motivational videos on YouTube and links to information and videos of other motivational speakers such as Jim Rohn, Wayne Dyer, Les Brown, Joe Dispenza, John Assaraf, Brendon Burchard, Brian Tracy, Zig Ziglar, Tony Robbins, Simon Sinek, Tom Bilyeu, John Maxwell, and Mel Robbins. I heard them mention Napoleon Hill, Earl Nightingale, and Earl Shoaff, which led me to find them online.
They were all my professors at VU (Virtual University). I religiously watched the videos they posted on their social media platforms, and they taught me well. I consider them my mentors in the field of personal growth and development. Through them, I learned much about constructs related to self-improvement and Positive Psychology—goal-setting, planning, decision-making, time management, well-being, mindset, personal accountability, lifelong learning, good thinking, positive thinking, self-discipline, and more.
I consider them my mentors. They taught me valuable lessons I never learned in school. Thanks to them, I realized that in striving to be the best I can be, as my parents instructed, there are attitudes and beliefs I must pursue and possess, skills and abilities I must learn and acquire, and practices and activities I must carry out and perform. I realized how essential they are for achieving one’s full potential and becoming the best.
Seeing how personal growth and development have benefited me personally and professionally and recognizing that as a teacher, I can help my students and influence my loved ones and dear friends to experience the same, I have embraced self-improvement as an advocacy. I am committed to promoting it. There may be those my mentors from VU could not reach but whom I may be able to. I strive to do so in my humble ways.
To the best of my ability, I aim to plant seeds of motivation and inspiration in others, encouraging them to recognize their potential and embrace the transformative power of self-improvement. I believe that each interaction, no matter how small, has the potential to spark a profound change in someone’s life. Whether through teaching, writing, or engaging in meaningful conversations, I see every opportunity as a chance to leave a positive imprint on those I encounter.
In doing so, I am trying to carry forward the legacy of my mentors, whose wisdom and guidance have shaped my journey. Their influence reminds me that advocacy is not confined to grand gestures but is often reflected in our quiet, consistent efforts to uplift those around us.
My mission is to reach individuals who may feel unseen or undervalued, empowering them to believe in their capacity to grow and succeed.
In my classes, I actively seek opportunities to instill the value of striving to improve. I do the same in informal discussions with friends, loved ones, and sometimes strangers. Whenever I have the chance to discuss something related to self-improvement, I seize it without hesitation.
My approach is grounded in the belief that the desire to grow and evolve is universal, and all it often takes is a spark—a meaningful word, a shared experience, or a heartfelt conversation—to ignite that desire in someone.
It reminds me of how those simple compliments from a couple of teachers in high school inspired me to study harder.
I also write essays on personal growth and development, which I post on my websites and social media accounts. When I realized how much I had already written on the subject, the idea of writing a book on self-improvement emerged. I decided to compile and interconnect everything I had written about personal growth and development into a book.
My motivation for writing this book is clear: I want to offer a guide that could help readers like you achieve their full potential, be the best and strongest version of themselves, and attain fulfillment by achieving what they desire. When I began working on this book, I also had my students in mind. I hope they and other young people like them will read this book like you.
You have dreams and ambitions, but uncertainty can sometimes keep you stuck. You doubt your ability to achieve them. Sometimes, your challenges feel larger than life, your dreams out of reach, and self-doubt gets the best of you. However, I still believe that you have the power to become the highest version of yourself, manifest your dreams, and flourish into becoming the best you.
It is not luck or chance that gets you to the fulfillment of dreams and desires—it is learning the right strategies and applying the focus, determination, and passion you need to pursue your personal and professional endeavors. The future is yours to take.
This book is divided into three parts, each focusing on different aspects of self-improvement. In Part I, we will discuss beliefs and attitudes; in Part II, skills and abilities; and in Part III, practices and activities.
Henceforth, I will collectively refer to beliefs and attitudes as a value system, skills and abilities as a competence framework, and practices and activities as a habit scheme.
The world needs people willing to rise to their full potential, lead purposefully, and contribute to something greater. I believe you are one of those people.
As you read through the following pages, I hope you will find the encouragement, insight, and tools you need to take the next step in your journey. My goal is to inspire you to look at your personal and professional goals not as impossible dreams but as inevitable outcomes that await your dogged determination to succeed.
This book is both a reflection of my journey and an invitation to join me on the path to unlocking the greatness within you. I do not feel like I am already the best version of myself. Thus, my journey towards unlocking my full potential has not ended yet. If you have not started with yours, now is the time to begin.
Why A Daily Routine Matters
“Win the morning, and you win the day.”
~ Aries Spears ~
Whether you believe it or not, the things you habitually do or do not do every day, consciously or unconsciously, will determine how healthy, successful, and happy you will be. That’s how powerful routines and habits are. It would help if you were mindful of the activities you engage with every day. Reflect and ask the following questions: “Are there things you’re supposed to do but have not done?” and “Are there things you did that should not have?” This discourse deals with the distinctions between routine and habit and how adhering to a consistent routine and good habits can unlock your full potential.
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A person who consciously sets routines can be likened to a pigeon with a keen homing instinct that can navigate its way back home no matter how far away from its loft you release it. Conversely, anyone who does not have specific daily routines and does things on autopilot is like driftwood floating in a river. Without intention or direction, the driftwood is subject to the forces around it, carried by the current without control over where it goes or when it stops.
You may pause for a while and reflect. With which could you be likened – to a pigeon or driftwood? Do you have specific daily routines that you perform religiously or start and end a day singing to the tune of “Que sera, sera”?
The word “routine” describes activities regularly performed. Routines can be personal or work-related and are done at the day’s beginning, during, and end. A routine may include behavior as typical as “waking up at the same time every morning” or as important as “going to work as scheduled.”
It can be argued that something you do repeatedly every day eventually becomes a habit, and thus, it ceases to be part of your routine.
At this juncture, clarifying the difference between routine and habit is necessary. The two are related but distinct concepts. Eyal (2014) argued that people want to turn everything into a habit without understanding the fundamental difference between a habit and a routine. He explained that habit is the impulse to do a behavior with little or no conscious thought, while routine is a series of behaviors frequently repeated [intentionally].
Eyal pointed out that most things people want to turn into habits will never become habits. Some routines can eventually become habits, but not every routine can become a habit.
The things you do daily can be deliberately set as parts of your daily routine or are habits you perform on autopilot. Those activities you intentionally or unknowingly do can benefit or harm your well-being. The ones you do routinely (and not habitually) are the ones that will move your SH2W needle.
Duncan (2022) explained that a daily routine is simply a collection of habits you do daily. He added that you likely have a series of daily routines you aren’t fully aware of—for example, things you do automatically when getting ready in the morning, starting your workday, or winding down in the evenings. He argues that making activities intentional means shutting off autopilot and consciously creating daily habits that increase productivity and generate happiness. Making routine intentional is also eliminating the habits that stand in our way.
A habit is an automatic behavior triggered by specific cues and usually performed without much conscious thought. Milkman (2021) explains that habits are like shortcuts—they’re things we can do quickly and without thinking because we’ve done them so often that they’ve become automatic. Routine, on the other hand, refers to a sequence of actions regularly followed, usually intentionally designed for specific times of the day. Routines are typically more deliberate and involve conscious planning.
As Milkman pointed out, a cue or trigger is often needed to remind us to start our habitual actions. For example, if you habitually brush your teeth after meals, you’ll likely do so automatically after finishing a meal. By contrast, a routine behavior is not connected to a specific cue. Following a routine, like going to the gym for a workout, requires conscious and deliberate effort—even discipline.
Habits form automatically over time, whether beneficial or detrimental, shaping your behavior often without conscious thought. There are good and bad habits. You must strive to retain positive habits and break negative ones. Self-awareness and discipline are crucial in helping you reinforce beneficial habits while working to eliminate harmful ones.
In contrast, a routine is generally designed to be beneficial, as it involves intentional planning and structure. People rarely, if not never, schedule activities that harm their well-being. You can incorporate positive habits into your routines to form a framework of beneficial behaviors that support pursuing your goals and overall quality of life.
As articulated in this discourse, a daily routine is a set of specific activities (including positive habits) scheduled at certain times of the day and performed in pursuit of one’s goals.
Your routines embody your goals and plans and are fueled by your whys. The things you do every day are supposedly tied to the goals you have set. Every move you make during your waking hours should be part of the plan you established to pursue those goals.
Setting routines indicates that you are controlling your destiny, unwilling to be dictated by the currents of fate—floating without a purpose, at the mercy of circumstances like driftwood. Establishing a daily routine is an effective way of managing time. It ensures that you do your daily activities as scheduled.
Organizing your activities sets clear intentions and indicates your seriousness about pursuing your dreams and ambitions. It is a hallmark of being purpose-driven. When we begin a day, we cannot afford to stay adrift, moving from task to task without any true purpose.
Routines are indeed driven by a purpose. We include an activity in our daily activities for specific reasons. We also add to our daily routine habits that we deem beneficial, which would contribute to attaining our goals.
Routines are beneficial in many ways. Csikszentmihalyi (2008) states, “When you establish a routine, your body and mind start to adapt, making it easier to slip into a deeply focused state known as ‘flow.’ Establishing a routine creates familiar cues that signal your brain to prepare for deep focus, enabling you to immerse yourself completely in an activity. Over time, this consistency allows you to transition smoothly into productivity without forcing it.
Choosing and sticking to your daily activities shapes your mood, shaping who you are (Murray et al., 2020). The activities you select each day influence your mood by setting the tone for how you feel and approach the world. Consistently engaging in positive, purposeful actions can foster a stable, uplifting mood, gradually shaping your habits, attitudes, and identity.
Daily routines also help you take control of your day and, subsequently, your life. They allow you to start your day, make better decisions, sleep better, enjoy quality time with loved ones, and have more time for activities you love (“Why Routines Are Good,” n.d.).
Having a daily routine will help you improve your focus and productivity. A list of specific activities at specific times of the day will allow you to concentrate on doing things one at a time and deliver the best possible results. Knowing what should be accomplished eliminates unwanted stress. Neuroscientists claim that when you set to do something, you are preparing your subconscious mind for the job, and doing it will no longer cause you to feel stressed.
The success, happiness, health, and wealth you want to achieve will not emerge from a stroke of luck or just sporadic bursts of effort. They will result from intentional daily routines—those small, often unnoticed actions that accumulate and compound over time. Take the example of daily reading in your field of expertise; it’s like a drop of water on a rock. Ovid once said, “Dripping water hollows out stone, not through force but through persistence.” The benefits of consistent reading—or any other habit you cultivate and include as activities in your daily routine—are impossible to predict now, but over time, they add up in ways you might never have imagined. Your daily routine shapes your life’s course when repeated with discipline and purpose.
Daily routines are usually divided into three parts – activities we do in the morning before performing our chosen profession/vocation, during the time that we perform that profession/vocation, and in the evening when we return home and before sleeping.
People have different morning rituals. Jim Kwik (2020) recommends his ideal morning routine – recall your dreams, make the bed, drink water and take supplements, breathe, meditate, move [exercise], take a cold shower, nourish your brain, journal, create a to-do list, a to-be-list, and a to-feel list, read, make a brain smoothie, do brain training, and start with your most difficult and most important task.
Which ones of Jim Kwik’s recommendation are you actually doing?
Bokhari (n.d.) argued that a healthy morning routine has four core components: physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual. He considers those four as the sources of energy that each of us is born with. You must unleash your physical energy and activate your body to prime it for a successful day. Learning something new or doing at least one thing each morning is essential to sharpen your mind. He suggests addressing your emotional and social needs by checking in with yourself, connecting with people you care about, and unleashing your spiritual energy by doing something that allows you to reconnect to your purpose, faith, or WHY.
During the day, your work or business takes a considerable chunk of your daily routine. A daily work routine is a set of behaviors aimed at achieving and accomplishing tasks most efficiently when practiced daily. A pattern of habits, activities, and behaviors governs how an individual plans a task schedule and decides which task should be done at what time (“Five Steps in Daily Work Routine,” n.d.)
Experts recommend taking breaks during work hours to boost productivity, maintain high levels of focus, and prevent burnout. The “Pomodoro Technique” is an effective way of doing this. The technique requires work intervals (e.g., 25 minutes of focused work followed by a 5-minute break).
The pursuit of your evening routine commences when you go home from work (or when you stop working). An ideal evening routine helps you wind down, reflect on the day, and prepare for the next one. The goal is to relax your body, declutter your mind, and prepare for a restful sleep.
Studies conducted on daily routine recommend the following to-do list for an evening routine: unplug and disconnect, reflect on the day and practice gratitude, plan and set intentions for tomorrow, engage in relaxing activities, practice personal hygiene and self-care, set up a sleep-friendly environment, and practice relaxation techniques or visualization.
Instead of spending long hours using gadgets, you might consider dedicating time to other activities, such as reading, journaling, or meditating.
A carefully planned daily routine is required to live a purposive life. It makes every action you take intentional and geared towards achieving your goals. Starting your day with morning rituals that will invigorate you the whole day ensures that you will work productively and get your desired results. Ending the days right is just as important. Thus, your evening rituals should not only be spent for further self-improvement but must allow you to recharge and get ready for the next day. Consciously choosing the activities for your daily routine is a manifestation of purposiveness. It indicates the desire not to live your life on autopilot. Establishing an organized set of activities is veering away from merely going through the motions of life.
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The Tree That You Are and The Fruits That You Bear
Water the fruit trees, and don’t water the thorns.”
– Rumi
“No good tree bears bad fruit, nor does a bad tree bear good fruit.”
That one was from St. Luke, and it’s only one of the many quotes where trees and fruits are used figuratively to bring beauty to an idea that a writer or speaker wishes to convey, emphasize, and clarify.
Obviously, the “tree” in that bible verse refers to you and me. And what about the fruits? They are our thoughts, words, and actions and their outcomes. Could there be other fruits? I believe there’s none. The things we think, say and do and their eventual consequences or results are the fruits of the tree that we are. There’s nothing else that would come from us through which we can be judged or valued as a person.
We think (consciously or subconsciously) first before we say or do something. I refer to it as the “think-say-do” process. After processing an idea or a situation (or any other kind of stimulus) in our minds, we decide what actions to take or words to say thereafter. That’s our response. You may call it a decision.
“Each tree is recognized by its own fruits.” Thus, you should be careful of what you think and the decision you make afterward. They are manifestations of the kind of person you are… and have consequences or results. I don’t know if there can be an argument against that assertion.
You have first-hand knowledge of how you think and decide. You are aware of the kind of fruits you produce. What about their outcomes? The fruits you bear result in the reputation you build for yourself in the community where you belong and among your colleagues, peers, friends, and loved ones. Imagine reputation as the basket where your fruits – the decisions you made in the past – are stored. What people say (and think) about you is your reputation. Your reputation is the consequence of your speech and actions.
Sometimes, even if you say and do good and always try your best to make the right decisions, some people will treat you negatively. Don’t mind them. Their reactions are boomerangs that would harm them, not you.
Whatever you have accomplished at this stage in your life are also consequences of your past decisions. Your resume is also a basket of the fruits you produced. If people would scrutinize your resume, what would they see? What they see are your fruits. Success is one big and ripe apple in the apple tree. It is the end goal of all our personal and professional pursuits.
But there’s a fruit sweeter than success – happiness. That’s what simple people with simple dreams who don’t have a curriculum vitae to show try to grow in their tree. You would even hear people with grand dreams say they aim for success because they want to be happy. Their success is the source of their happiness, while for the simple folks I mentioned earlier, the simplicity of their life and desires makes them happy.
Reputation, success, and happiness – the products of the decisions you make – are the fruits of the tree you become.
The kind of fruits you would bear depends on the kind of tree you grow into. Good fruits will spring out of your branches and twigs if you are a good tree.
Bear in mind that you have control of the process of becoming who you are. Yes, no one else is in control of it. We call that process self-improvement. The tree that would sprout from that transformation is your “best self.”
Only when you become your “best self” that you will start bearing the good fruits.
The journey into becoming your “best self” begins with one simple step – rejecting any excuse to not become the tree you wish to be and bear the fruit you desire.
Education comes next. We nourish the tree called “self” through education. And it’s going to be long and tedious. It’s actually lifelong. Remember what Aristotle said, “The roots of education are bitter, but the fruit is sweet.” But with education, I don’t mean just formal schooling. Schools are not the only place where learning can be had. Learning comes in many shapes and forms.
Learning makes you better than you were yesterday.
Sometimes we feel discouraged when all the efforts we put into self-improvement seemingly do not bear fruit. We need to be patient. Rousseau tells us that patience is bitter, but the fruit is sweet. Moliere added, “The trees that are slow to grow bear the best fruit.”
There’s one more fruit that your tree will eventually bear – wisdom. You know it’s there when you realize that growing the tree is more exciting than harvesting its fruits. What you will become – your best self – is beyond your reputation, more glittery than success, and more overwhelming than happiness.
The Self-improvement Paradigm
According to Jim Rohn, “Success is not to be pursued, it is to be attracted by the person you become.” Imagine success as the fruit of a tree. A tree has to grow and mature. It will reach a certain stage of maturity that allows it to bear fruits. Imagine yourself as that tree. You have to grow and mature. The person you see at the end of the process of growing and maturing is what Jim Rohn refers to as the person you become. The fruits you bear or the success you achieve depends on the kind of tree you would turn into. And you have to become the best version of yourself. That’s the kind of tree you should be. You need to reach your full potential so you would bear the best fruits.
Self-improvement is the key to becoming the best version of yourself. If you succeed in getting to the end of the road to self-improvement, you reach your full potential.
But self-improvement is a complicated process. It is easier said than done. It requires the possession of certain beliefs, attitudes, and characteristics that will make up your value system. It requires also the acquisition of certain skills and abilities and the development of certain practices and habits.
The right beliefs, attitudes, characteristics, skills, abilities, practices, and habits, together, are the catalysts of self-improvement. However, having them is not enough. Something else is needed in order to make them work. Without it any attempt to reach one’s full potential is bound to fail. What is it? It’s self-discipline.
Self-improvement is not as simple as just being able to think positively. Positive thinking is but a tip of a huge iceberg called personal growth and development.
Self-improvement is a tedious process. Its ultimate goal is becoming the “best self” or achieving one’s full potential. As previously mentioned, certain beliefs, attitudes, characteristics, skills, abilities, practices, and habits are required. But possessing the said requirements is not enough. Consistency is needed in their pursuit. Thus, self-discipline is also needed.
The foregoing are the elements that comprise the self-improvement paradigm that I developed to guide my advocacy for personal growth and development.
The contents of my YouTube channel (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC2zzJ6T94fNnvPPwrA0OxAA) and the personal growth and development book I am currently writing are based on this paradigm.
The Road To Self-improvement: The Road Not Taken
The road to self-improvement is either not taken or the one less traveled because it is easier, if not intuitive for people, to be complacent. Well, according to scientists, we should blame our brains for this. (And this is where we’re good at – putting the blame on someone or something else.) They (the scientists) say that we are naturally wired to prefer either lying on the couch or sleeping. We are naturally lazy. We hate getting out of our comfort zones. We want things to be given to us on a silver platter…
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