The Difference in English Proficiency Between Tourism and Engineering Students of Two Asian Universities
The paper we presented at an international conference earlier this year (January, 2019) just got published in an SCOPUS-indexed international journal.
(To God be the glory!)
The corrections I asked the publisher to make were not reflected in the final copy of the journal.
(A Personal Essay)
Longing for home – that’s the simplest way to explain what homesickness is. It is the feeling of sorrow that results from leaving behind loved ones and friends to go somewhere far, usually overseas, for a long period of time
Well, a lot have been written about the subject. The loneliness one feels when away from home is the theme of many essays, stories, and poems. There are also movies about homesickness and plenty of books and speeches sharing tips on how to overcome it are available.
As an expat working here in South Korea (since 2013), I can say that I am no stranger to homesickness. I am so familiar with this emotional experience. I know how it feels to be hundreds of miles away from the comfort of home and the warm embrace and assuring presence of friends and loved ones. I know how discomforting it is to be in an unfamiliar territory where almost everything is different from what one was accustomed to.
There are people claiming to have never experienced homesickness. Well, good for them. What about me?
I waged a battle against this emotional discomfort during my first weeks here in South Korea. I thought that mentally preparing for a departure from my comfort zone would be enough to help me overcome whatever challenges that await me in this country, including homesickness.
While waiting for the day I would fly to this country, I tried to prepare for it mentally by accepting that I would not be with my family for a long time and that my wife who takes good care of me and prepares everything I need wouldn’t be there to help. I thought that somehow I could also prepare emotionally for a life away from my country and my family by simply accepting that it would soon be my reality. I was wrong.
Excitement overwhelmed me when I came out of the plane at the Gimhae International Airport. I was so happy seeing South Korea for the first time and thinking of my good fortune for being given the opportunity to teach here. But the euphoria was short-lived. Upon entering the apartment the university provided, the reality that I was by my lonesome in a faraway place, something that I thought I have already fully embraced when I departed home, seemed like tiny needles starting to prick my emotions.
When I began unpacking, I recalled the conversation I had with my wife and my son while they were helping me stuff all those things in my luggage. I remember how the lady of my house tried unsuccessfully to control her tears. I remembered also the phone calls I made to my parents. It was less than a day of being separated from my family and I was already missing them. Just that and all of a sudden my first episode of homesickness kicked in. Sadness crept in slowly. The early spring weather giving me a chilly welcome exacerbated it.
I tried to dismiss the thought of me feeling homesick by thinking that I was just tired, hungry, and cold at that time. But the feeling lingered in the next days notwithstanding the heater in my room, the multiple layers of clothes in my body, and the hot and spicy foods on my table.
I dreaded the coming of night and the weekend for it meant being alone in my room. At least when in the workplace I have the company of my colleagues and my students and the work made me preoccupied.
During my first two weeks here in South Korea, I was in a funk and I knew I couldn’t afford to stay that way or else my job performance would be adversely affected. So, I resolved to eradicate the problem. I know I had in my repertoire of skills something that I could summon to help me figure out how to get out of the said funk – my ability to bounce back from adversity.
The first thing I did was stop denying that I was longing for home. I stared homesickness in the eyes. I treated it as a problem so I would be able to have the mindset that it could be resolved.
And much that I was missing home and my family, I tried to see if Skyping my loved ones in the Philippines longer than usual would help. Thank God It did. I pushed it further by requesting my wife as well that when we’re done talking she should not cut the Skype connection. I even told her to bring the laptop in any place in the house where I could see her and our son. That worked more wonders for me. Seeing my wife and my son moving around our house in the Philippines doing what they usually do and hearing the songs they listen to and other familiar sounds – the roosters crowing, the dogs barking, the horns of vehicles honking – was emotionally comforting.
It’s hard to believe but I had homesickness figured out within my first month here in South Korea. Thanks to Skype and Facebook Messenger. Thanks also to South Korea’s fast internet connection that allows me to make a video call with my family practically anytime and wherever I am – home, office, or even in the mountain when I was hiking.
I and my family could Skype as long as we want. But it couldn’t be for 24/7. There are times as well that my wife or my son have pressing concerns and other things to attend that makes connecting with them impossible.
Those are the times when I pursue my other passion – writing. I write stories, essays, poems, and research papers. I write in both English and Filipino. It’s only a hobby. Yes, sometimes I get paid for the things I write but I am doing it primarily for the immense joy and sense of satisfaction it gives me.
I have a lot of free time here in South Korea that I was able to create and maintain my own website (Hardpen’s Portfolio). The said website serves as repository for my writings.
Maintaining my website and creating its contents have been making me super busy so much so that I could no longer find time to be homesick.
There were times that I could not even Skype my family because I was busy attending to my website.
Nowadays, whenever people ask me how I got through homesickness I already have a definite response – by Skyping my family and writing.
Anyway, there are other activities that I do after work not only to keep homesickness away but to achieve work-life balance – watch movies and the sports I love, go to the gym, read books, and watch videos on personal growth and development. You may say I have a boring routine. But it works for me. Of course, I go out with a very few selected friends during special occasions. But basically, I am a lone wolf. That is by choice for I wanted to avoid vices and troubles.
“What am I without you?”
The boat says to the sea.
“Bring back the tide,
make me alive.
I beseech thee.”
Bring back the tide
Let me ride your waves
Toss me to and fro
Throw me up high
Then splash me down hard into your waiting arms.
Bring back the tide,
Pull me out of the dock!
I’d rather face the peril
of being whipped
by the mighty waves of your love
Than left alone moored in the lonely sands of memory.