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Better Self… Better Life… Better Nation
SDSI – DOSE 04
At the heart of my self-improvement advocacy is a simple but powerful conviction: personal transformation can become a foundation for national progress.
Better Self… Better Life… Better Nation.
Self-improvement begins with the individual, but its influence need not end there. As people become more principled, capable, disciplined, and responsible, they become better equipped not only to improve their own lives but also to contribute meaningfully to their families, communities, and nation.
- Better Self — developing one’s values, competence, habits, and self-discipline.
- Better Life — using that growth to pursue health, happiness, success, and fulfillment.
- Better Nation — better individuals becoming responsible citizens who contribute rather than merely wait for political leaders to solve everything.
Building better citizens does not remove the government’s responsibility to provide honest, competent, and accountable leadership. It simply recognizes that national progress cannot be entrusted to political leaders alone.
A better nation cannot be built by citizens who continually search for political saviors while neglecting their own character, competence, discipline, and responsibilities. We must demand better leaders—but we must also strive to become better people.
The journey toward a better nation does not begin only in palaces, government offices, or polling places. It also begins quietly within every person who chooses to become more principled, capable, disciplined, and responsible.
About the Title – Why “A Holistic Approach”?
(SDSI – Dose 02)
Self-improvement is often approached as a collection of separate goals: building confidence, learning new skills, developing better habits, becoming more productive, or strengthening self-discipline. Each of these pursuits has value. However, concentrating on one aspect while neglecting the others may produce limited or short-lived results.
This is why the title of my book emphasizes a holistic approach. The word holistic comes from the idea that the different dimensions of a person are interconnected. Our attitudes and beliefs influence the decisions we make. Our skills and abilities determine how effectively we act on those decisions. Our repeated practices become habits, while self-discipline enables us to sustain constructive action even when enthusiasm or motivation begins to weaken. Self-improvement, therefore, is not any one of these elements in isolation, but the integrated whole they create when brought together and sustained through self-discipline.
A holistic approach does not mean trying to improve everything simultaneously. Neither does it demand perfection or equal achievement in every part of life. Instead, it means recognizing how the different dimensions of personal development affect one another and deliberately bringing them into greater balance, harmony, and alignment.
A Holistic Approach to Self-Improvement therefore presents personal growth as an integrated process rather than a series of disconnected pursuits. It brings together a sound value system, a strong competence framework, a beneficial habit scheme, and the self-discipline required to make them work consistently and synergistically.
The ultimate purpose is not merely to become more confident, skilled, disciplined, productive, or successful. It is to develop the whole person—to become increasingly capable of creating a fulfilling life characterized by greater health, genuine happiness, and meaningful success.
A Steady Dose of Self-Improvement
As Jim Rohn said, “Those who seek a better life must first become a better person.” You don’t need a magic pill to become a better person. That pill does not exist anyway. What you need is “A Steady Dose of Self-Improvement.”
“A Steady Dose of Self-Improvement (SDSI)” is a continuing educational and reflective series. My objective in launching this project is to present, through concise and accessible installments, the central ideas of my book, A Holistic Approach to Self-Improvement: A Practical Guide to Becoming Your Best Self.
Betting on Ourselves
I have a section on my website that I christened “Road to Self-Improvement.” That section was born of my advocacy for self-improvement — and it is where the idea of writing a book on the subject first took shape. But the advocacy itself is older than the website, older than the book. It started years ago, when a friend asked me a simple question: what is the best national development framework for the Philippines?
I told him this — for the Philippines to develop as a nation, Filipinos need to abandon the mindset that a messiah will come to save our country from the socio-political and economic quicksand where we are currently drowning. We think we can pin our hopes for a better future, a better life, on a leader or politician we believe in and support — most of the time, blindly. And yet whoever we elect to the seats of the Executive and Legislative branches has consistently failed to move the needle of progress and peace.
So what, then, is the framework? I believe it begins smaller than any election, smaller than any administration — it begins with the individual. If every Filipino embraces self-improvement and pursues their full potential, they can grow in every aspect of life: mind, character, discipline, livelihood, health. When that happens, they succeed — and with that success comes the capacity to lift not only themselves, but the families they belong to. When every Filipino and every family commit, simply and consistently, to becoming better, imagine what their community becomes. And if every community in our towns, cities, and provinces reflects that same commitment, we will have built — not waited for, not voted for, but built — a stronger Philippine society. A stronger Filipino nation.
It is time for Filipinos to abandon the mindset that we can pin our hopes on a strong politician or leader — a messiah, a savior. Every Filipino should pin their hopes on themselves. We must bet on ourselves, not on someone who promises us the moon and the stars during an election. Betting on a leader to single-handedly bring our nation to paradise is like betting on a lottery with 45 numbers to choose from — your odds of winning are 1 in more than 8,000,000. It’s like fishing for one single fish in a fishing area the size of the entire Pacific Ocean.
One need not look far for proof. As I write this, the nation watches its vice president stand trial for corruption and misuse of public funds, while senators allied with one camp or another are arrested, disappear, or resurface depending on which side of a political feud they happen to stand. Officials once inseparable allies now accuse each other of the very crimes they once campaigned to eradicate together. This is not an aberration — it is the lottery working exactly as it always has: fortunes made and unmade not by the merit of public service, but by the shifting arithmetic of political alliances. Whoever wins this particular round of the game, the game itself remains what it has always been — a gamble the ordinary Filipino never gets to place a real bet in, only to watch.
Betting on ourselves, on the other hand, is not a bet on chance at all — it is a commitment to effort, and effort is not drawn from a bin of eight million balls where luck alone decides the outcome. When a Filipino bets on a leader, he marks a ballot once, then waits — powerless, passive — for a stranger’s decisions to shape his future. When a Filipino bets on himself, there is no waiting and no ballot box; there is only the next skill learned, the next hour of work invested, the next discipline practiced. These are not draws from a lottery machine — they are deposits, and, like any deposit made consistently, they compound. A leader may fail to deliver even after winning every vote in his favor; a Filipino who invests in his own competence, character, and resilience cannot be defrauded of that investment by any politician, any administration, or any election cycle.
This is exactly the mechanism by which one Filipino’s discipline becomes a family’s stability, a family’s stability becomes a community’s strength, and a community’s strength becomes a nation’s foundation. No leader can legislate that chain into existence. No election can manufacture it overnight. It has to be built — person by person, family by family, town by town — and the beauty of it is that, unlike the lottery of politics, every single one of us holds a winning ticket the moment we decide to act on it.
This is the difference between hoping for a miracle and building one. It is why I stopped asking, years ago, who will save our nation — and started asking instead what I myself was willing to build. That question became a website section. It became years of writing. It eventually became a book. But long before it became any of those things, it was simply a decision — the same decision I believe every Filipino is capable of making, the same decision that, multiplied across a hundred million of us, could move the needle that a hundred years of elections never did.
We do not need a messiah. We need each other, choosing, one by one, to bet on ourselves.
Sense of Fulfillment
“Those who live a life of purpose will find true fulfillment .”
~ Hardpen ~
In my book “Paradigm for Self-Improvement”, I proposed a framework for personal growth and development. One of the main constructs I explored in the said framework is fulfillment.
In the self-improvement framework, fulfillment is presented as the outcome of the process. This concept has multiple definitions, but in my book, it is described as akin to “the achievement of something desired, promised, or predicted.” I use the phrase “akin to” because fulfillment goes deeper than accomplishment.
Fulfillment (characterized by achieving health, success, and happiness) is presented as the outcome of the self-improvement process. When you embrace personal growth and development, your ultimate goal becomes realizing your full potential.
Through self-improvement, you will acquire attitudes, beliefs, skills, and abilities, and engage in practices and activities to become your best and strongest version. The transformation you will undergo will enable you to achieve success, maintain good health, and experience genuine happiness, giving you a sense of fulfillment.
Establishing the connection between achieving one’s full potential and experiencing fulfillment—where the latter results from the former—aligns with Jim Rohn’s statement: “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person you become.”
The quote implies that self-improvement is a prerequisite to fulfillment. It emphasizes the importance of personal growth and development in pursuing success, health, and happiness. Rohn suggests that you do not need to chase these things. Fulfillment naturally comes when you focus on improving yourself from within. It is the byproduct of becoming the best you.
When you cultivate the right attitudes and beliefs, hone the necessary skills and abilities, and consistently perform the vital practices and activities, you grow personally and professionally, and opportunities and achievements will follow naturally. When you work hard to improve yourself, you create conditions where success is drawn to you.
Some people argue that fulfillment—the realization of dreams and ambitions—is the ultimate goal of self-improvement. They view it as the end, and self-improvement is the means to achieve it.
The relationship between the constructs of self-improvement and fulfillment, as articulated by Jim Rohn, can be framed in Simon Sinek’s WHY-HOW-WHAT structure.
The Why (Goal) is to attain full potential, the How (Plan) is the self-improvement process, and the What (Outcome) is fulfillment (Health, Success, Happiness)
Molding the relationship between self-improvement and fulfillment within Sinek’s Why-How-What framework is necessary to present this connection more clearly in the context of my proposed self-improvement paradigm. The WHY (or the reason) for undergoing personal growth and development is attaining full potential, while the pursuit of fulfillment—becoming successful, healthy, and happy—is the WHAT. The HOW is the self-improvement process.
The pursuit of personal growth and development becomes deeply rooted when achieving one’s full potential serves as the core purpose (WHY). Perhaps this is because I subscribe to the dictum that becoming the best version of yourself leads to success. Success, health, and happiness are the natural consequences of growing and enhancing one’s abilities.
That does not mean that making fulfillment your WHY is wrong. If your motivation comes from the joy and satisfaction of achieving something or accomplishing specific and meaningful goals, fulfillment could be a better WHY.
“Becoming the best you” or “achieving fulfillment” are good reasons to embrace self-improvement. Both of them are powerful and meaningful WHYs. Which one you choose depends on what resonates more deeply with you.
Fulfillment, as presented here, is highlighted as the “WHAT.” Specifically, the tangible outcomes of the self-improvement journey are success, health, and happiness. As to why I have grouped these three concepts to characterize fulfillment, I will explain toward the end of this discourse.
Volumes have been written about success, health, and happiness.
Success, as defined in various dictionaries, broadly refers to achieving desired results, whether fame, wealth, or accomplishment. Prosperity, wealth, and triumph are some of the words synonymous with success. These definitions and related terms reveal how success is quantified through wealth, status, influence, and achievement, contributing to our understanding of fulfillment.
So, when asked who the most successful people in the world are, we never fail to mention the names of the world’s wealthiest men listed in Forbes’ top billionaires. The next ones on our lists are showbiz, sports, media, and political personalities.
When we discuss successful people, we also remember the names of quite a few—some of them our friends—who may not be rich, famous, or influential but excel in their respective fields of endeavor.
Some questions are begging for answers.
Are those people we consider successful happy, too? Do their money, fame, power, and accomplishments bring them happiness? Nobody knows but themselves and perhaps their loved ones and close friends.
At least they have the money. However, can their money buy them happiness? Can money buy happiness? These questions have been asked so often that they could already be considered meaningless. However, in the light of the present discussion, they should be asked, not to have them answered, but as a point to ponder.
We presume that with all the luxuries the money of the wealthy, famous, and powerful could afford, it is almost impossible that they are not happy. Unless it is true that, according to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, only the basic needs (physiological and safety) can be met by money. Psychological needs (esteem, belonging, and love) and self-fulfillment are not available on the shelves of even the most expensive stores.
Here is the next question: “Are they healthy?”
They are already wealthy, famous, and powerful. They are truly blessed if they are also in good shape. Of course, they are—financially. But what about the physical, emotional, mental, and other dimensions of their well-being? Again, nobody knows but themselves and the people close to them.
Whether or not they are suffering from any debilitating disease, mental anguish, or emotional stress is difficult to determine.
I brought out the questions on happiness and health in the discussion of success because there is a need to strike a balance between the ephemeral and the ethereal when defining the concept. The prevailing view of success is materialistic. We attach tangible proofs to it—money, a big house, a new car, a degree, a job title, a specific body type, etc. I am not saying such an act (attaching tangible proof of success) is wrong. Nevertheless, I consider it not encompassing.
Why?
What about simple people who did not attend school, did not have cars, and lived in simple houses in far-flung farming and fishing villages, happily living a simple life with their loved ones and diligently performing their role in society? Would they not be considered as having achieved fulfillment?
When you do not have a mansion, a car, fancy clothes, expensive jewelry, a university degree, or a considerable amount of money in the bank—when you are not famous and not influential—when you are just an ordinary, decent individual, honestly earning a living and contented with what you have and what you are capable of achieving, but you are happy and healthy, would you not be considered successful?
Success need not be confined to material possessions or societal acclaim. For the farmer rising at dawn to nurture crops, the fisherman braving the waves to provide food, the driver ensuring safe journeys, or the janitor maintaining clean spaces, success can be measured by the dignity with which they live and work. Their fulfillment lies in their purpose, dedication, and the quiet joy they derive from their societal roles, which they fulfill diligently and without complaints.
Viewing success in this light means measuring it as personal and individual, like happiness and health. There is no standard measuring stick that can be imposed for its measurement. You must set your parameters when determining your happiness.
When we consider success as part of the holistic idea of fulfillment—blending health, happiness, and purpose—it becomes a universal concept accessible to all, regardless of status or possessions.
The most valuable lesson I heard about success is this: You, yourself, must define it. Do not allow other people to define success for you. Do not subscribe to the standards they set. You know your capabilities and limitations. Factor them in when setting your success parameters. However, do not be satisfied with your current skill set. You must improve and raise your bar as you see yourself improving. Do not forget that as you reach your goals, you should not sacrifice your happiness and health.
This brings me to why I have bundled success, health, and happiness as the key descriptors or manifestations of fulfillment. These three elements are interconnected and essential for a truly fulfilling life. Fulfillment is a harmonious state where success, health, and happiness converge.
Success is a source of personal and professional fulfillment, but not worth sacrificing good health. Similarly, happiness can add meaning and joy to life, but cannot stand alone without the stability of success or the vitality of good health. To achieve true fulfillment, you must experience all three simultaneously, as they complement and reinforce one another, creating a balanced and complete sense of well-being.
In bundling success, health, and happiness as the key descriptors of fulfillment, we recognize their interdependence and collective power to shape a truly enriched life. Success without health is fragile; health without happiness is incomplete; and happiness without the satisfaction of achievement may lack depth. Fulfillment arises from the synergy of these three elements, which create a balance that nourishes both body and spirit.
When you travel the road to self-improvement, remember that fulfillment is not a static final destination but a continuous state to aspire to, shaped by your choices and priorities. You will live a productive and deeply satisfying life by nourishing success, health, and happiness, and equally giving importance to each other.
Holistic Approach To Self-Improvement
A PARADIGM FOR PERSONAL GROWTH & DEVELOPMENT
There is no shortcut to self-improvement. It’s a long journey. Personal growth and development cannot be achieved by simply embracing positive thinking. It’s much more complicated than that. It involves establishing a value system, developing a competence framework, and maintaining a habit scheme. And as if doing these is not difficult, self-improvement also requires acquiring self-discipline. This makes the process of improving oneself not for the faint-hearted. Yes, it is extremely tedious and difficult, but the reward is enormous – the achievement of one’s full potential leading to self-fulfillment measured in terms of health, success, and happiness.
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HOLISTIC APPROACH TO SELF-IMPROVEMENT
My book, A PARADIM FOR SELF-IMPROVEMENT, will be retitled HOLISTIC APPROACH TO SELF-IMPROVEMENT for its second edition. The decision to change was informed by the fact that, after reviewing the contents, I found that the original title does not fully reflect the book’s scope and spirit. The original title focused on a conceptual framework, but the new title, Holistic Approach to Self-Improvement, better describes the book’s integrated view of personal growth and development. This view goes far beyond positive thinking to include ATTITUDES, BELIEFS, SKILLS, ABILITIES, PRACTICES, ACTIVITIES, and SELF-DISCIPLINE.
The change was made to ensure the title better fits the book’s content and its practical approach.
As I continue to fine-tune the contents, I have come to understand that the book is not merely about suggesting a framework; it is about embodying one. The word HOLISTIC describes that change. The word PARADIGM is too technical and creates the impression that this is just another research work, something to study. Replacing it with APPROACH tells readers that this is not a book meant only for academic purposes, but one that outlines the steps for those who intend to embrace personal growth and development.
Adding holistic indicates that growth doesn’t happen in separate parts; it happens when attitudes, beliefs, skills, abilities, practices, activities, and self-discipline come together. That’s the purpose of including PARADIGM in the original title: to show that SELF-IMPROVEMENT is a PROCESS that, when successfully carried out, would help an individual become their BEST SELF and attain FULFILLMENT.
In my book, I proposed the concepts of VALUE SYSTEM to comprise attitudes and values, COMPETENCE FRAMEWORK skills and abilities, and HABIT SCHEME practices and activities. The proposed concepts are viewed as DIMENSIONS of self-improvement.
The book, whether bearing the old or new title, encapsulates the interrelationships among these categories and self-discipline into a framework, illustrating how their synergy yields an effective process of self-improvement that leads to the attainment of one’s full potential.
The paradigm is divided into three sections: left, middle, and right. The middle section comprises three parts: the dimensions of self-improvement, the self-improvement process, and the concept of full potential, also known as the best self. The dimensions of self-improvement in this book are generally categorized as the attitudes & beliefs (value system), skills & abilities (competence framework), and practices & activities (habit scheme) that a person pursuing personal growth and development should acquire, possess, or develop. These elements come together through the self-improvement process, forming the second part of this section. This process aims
to help one become one’s best self, not as attaining perfection but as unlocking one’s full potential.
The left section of the paradigm highlights a crucial requirement for self-improvement: self-discipline. The paradigm illustrates how self-discipline continuously influences the process; even after one has achieved one’s full potential and become one’s best self, self-discipline remains essential. Self-discipline bolsters personal growth and development, forming the foundation for consistent progress and sustained fulfillment.
The right section of the paradigm illustrates the outcome of the self-improvement journey—fulfillment, characterized by becoming healthy, successful, and happy. This fulfillment represents not only the achievement of personal goals but also a deep sense of completeness and satisfaction that comes from living in alignment with one’s true potential. It is the reward for the dedication and discipline invested in becoming the best version of oneself.
Through self-improvement, individuals develop attitudes and beliefs, acquire skills and abilities, and engage in practices and activities to navigate life’s complexities confidently and purposefully. This transformation empowers them to achieve personal success, sustain a healthy state of being, and experience genuine happiness.
Those who achieve their full potential and become their best selves succeed in personal and professional endeavors. They become HEALTHY, SUCCESSFUL, and HAPPY.
If one intends to achieve their full potential and attain fulfillment, they must approach self-improvement holistically.
M.A.D. LIGAYA
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