SDSI — DOSE 17
(A Steady Dose of Self-Improvement)

Focus does not mean refusing to change direction—it means refusing to lose sight of your destination.

During my third rejection from a Middle Eastern university, I overheard a panelist say that I could not be considered because I lacked a TESOL certificate.

I was deeply disappointed. I had a bachelor’s degree in English, a master’s degree in Education, and a PhD in Educational Management. I had also completed most of the academic requirements for a master’s degree in English but had been unable to finish the thesis. Added to these qualifications were more than twenty years of teaching experience.

Surely, I thought, all of that should compensate for one missing certificate.

But it did not. The university had a policy: applicants without TESOL certification could not be hired. Whatever the panelists may have thought of my other qualifications, their hands were bound by that requirement.

I could have treated the rejection as proof that overseas teaching was not meant for me. I could have complained that the policy failed to recognize my education and experience. Perhaps I even had legitimate reasons to question it. But neither disappointment nor argument would give me the qualification I lacked.

So I asked myself a more useful question: What can I do next?

I enrolled in a TESOL program and earned the certificate.

That decision taught me something important about staying focused. Focus is sometimes mistaken for stubbornly following one plan. But genuine focus distinguishes between the goal and the route. My goal—to teach overseas—remained unchanged. The route toward it had to be adjusted.

Eventually, I secured a university teaching position in South Korea. The earlier rejections had not ended my journey. One of them had identified a gap I needed to close.

This is why setbacks should be examined before they are accepted as verdicts. Some criticism is unfair and should not control us. But some negative feedback contains useful information. Focus allows us to separate the pain of hearing it from the value of what it may reveal.

Staying focused has become increasingly difficult in a world full of competing goals, constant notifications, and attractive alternatives. Yet distraction does not come only from technology. Even worthwhile activities can pull us away from what matters most. A person can remain extremely busy while making little progress toward the goal that matters.

Focus therefore requires deliberate choices. We must decide what deserves our attention now, protect time for it, and temporarily say no—even to good opportunities that compete with a greater priority.

You do not have to cling to your original method. You may need another qualification, a different strategy, or a longer route than you anticipated.

Change the plan when necessary—but keep your eyes on the destination.

Pause and Reflect

What goal have you nearly abandoned because your original approach did not work?

What useful information might be hidden inside a rejection or criticism you received?

One Step Forward

Choose one important goal. Write down the single obstacle presently blocking it, then identify one concrete action you can take this week to address that obstacle.

Explored more fully in Chapter 9 — “Staying Focused” of  A Holistic Approach to Self-Improvement.

Better Self… Better Life… Better Nation.