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Do NOT Expect

If you think this is a perfect world then prepare to face a perfect disappointment. This world is not a perfect one and will never be. Things are not the way you wish them to be. People don’t behave, talk and think the way you thought (or wished) they would. Your co-workers, your boss, your friends…even the people you love… might  treat you in a way quite the opposite of what you expect.

Nothing is perfect in this world. Nobody is perfect in this world. So, do not expect too much or do not expect anything at all from anyone.

Do not expect that the politicians will deliver on their promises. Do not believe them when they say that should you vote for them they would bring about utopia. Be thankful if they could but do not bet on it. The truth is no earthly being  is capable of making the social, political and economic conditions of the world perfect.

Expect nothing from your leaders. If you think you could do better than them…that your country is better off with you at the helm… then run for public office.  Oppose them. Or march to the streets… deliver your protest against the inefficiency of your leaders. Convince people to champion your cause.  But if you don’t have the balls to do those, it would be best if you just keep quiet and perform your civic duties and be a responsible person and citizen.

Do not also expect that the workplace is a perfect environment. That’s the worst assumption to make. You will never find a heavenly workplace. You will end up disappointed if you expect that the people in your organization, from the rank and file to the people upstairs, are angels. They are not. They are just like you and me…humans.

Expect nothing from anyone in your workplace. Just work and perform your duties and responsibilities as stipulated on your job description. That’s the way to do it. Love the job and enjoy the pay.

If you’re not happy with the job and the pay… LEAVE. If you love your work and the compensation is good but you feel that the organizational climate is so terrible that it suffocates you then LEAVE. If you feel “taken advantage of,” RESIGN and LEAVE. It is as simple as that.  Find employment somewhere else. Find the perfect workplace you dream of. If you think you are too good to be just an employee then start a business. Make it grow. Employ people and see for yourself if you would be a better employer than the employers you hate.

You should not expect other people to solve your problem (or solve a problem for you)…not even if those people are compelled by their job description  to solve those problems. Even if it is the moral obligation of a person to help you get out of a difficult situation, don’t expect that you’ll get help from that person. Be thankful if you’ll get it but one thing you OUGHT to learn is to solve your own problems. Find a solution to whatever difficulty you are encountering.

Do not expect people to think and behave the way you do and embrace your principles and advocacies. Always remember that people look at things from their own perspectives and are driven by a set of motivations that maybe entirely different from yours. Never assume that your perspectives are correct and theirs are wrong.

Remember that people think and behave in different ways. The biggest disappointment you’ll ever encounter is when you expect that all people (or even half of them) are reasonable and conscientious.

You will be gravely disappointed if you expect that the love, generosity and kindness you show will be reciprocated by your friends, loved ones or anyone around you.  Do not expect any of them to praise the good things you’re doing and express gratitude for the favors you do for them. Lucky you if they would.

Lucky you, indeed, if the people you deal with , the leaders you elect, the ones you work with and work for, and your family and friends have conscience and conduct themselves within the bounds of reason.

If not, does it mean  you are unlucky? Not necessarily. Things just didn’t turn out the way you wanted. At least, don’t  be like them.

You have two options. You need to decide. Move away from them or embrace them for the way that they are.

Your choice.

As Mother Theresa said, “People are often unreasonable and self-centered, forgive them anyway.”

She added, “ You give the world the best you have and it may never be enough, give your best anyway.”

You might not get the fair treatment and respect you think you deserve but you do not have to retaliate. As Martin Luther King Jr. puts it, “Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.”

So, when your expectations are not met, move on and say, “Life goes on.”

Hold on to your dreams. Hold on to the values you hold dear.

Finally, there are two questions you need to answer. Are you a better person than those who you think disappoint you? That’s the first question. Here’s the second. Do they not consider  you a disappointment also?


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Professionalism Among Teachers

science-teacher-in-class-getty_573x300The complexities involving the teaching profession and the importance of the role of teachers in the holistic development of learners require strict adherence to the tenets of professionalism. There are expectations that teachers need to meet and there are qualities that they are expected to possess.

All the qualities teachers ought to have and what are expected of them can be summed up in one concept – “teacher professionalism.”

“Teacher professionalism” is an idea  that can be defined differently based on multiple perspectives and its merits scrutinized according to various arguments. It is considered a broad concept consisting of several dimensions.  However, for delimitation purposes, the discussion on the subject in this article is anchored only on the definitions of the term “professionalism” given in the next two (2) paragraphs.

Evans pointed out that “professionalism means different things to different people.”1 The Oxford dictionary simply defines the term as “the competence or skills expected of a professional.”It is the level of excellence or competence that professionals should manifest in their chosen fields of specialization.

Tichenorexplains that professionalism  are the expected  behaviors of individuals  in a specific occupation.  Professionals need to conduct themselves in accordance to set standards.

Boyt, Lusch and Naylor4 combined  the said views about professionalism when they describe it as a multi-dimensional structure consisting of one’s attitudes  and behaviors towards  his/her job and the achievement of high level of standards. Similarly, Hargreavesdefines professionalism as the conduct, demeanor and standards which guide the work of professionals.

The terms associated to professionalism as seen from the definitions and explanations given are as follows: competence, skills, behaviors, conduct, demeanor and standards. Competence and skills are synonymous and so are behaviors, conduct and demeanor. Standards refer to the quality or accepted norms for competence and behaviors.

Skills are not the only components that make up teacher’s competence. Knowledge is, of course, an integral part of it.

Skills and knowledge are very broad attributions to teacher’s competence however. What specifically are the skills and knowledge that would make a teacher competent?

As Baggini puts it, “To be a professional or a professor  was to profess in some skill or field of knowledge.” It’s a given that teachers should have knowledge of the subject matter or expertise in a particular skill. Teachers are expected to know not a little but much about what they are teaching.

What adds challenge to being a teacher  is the ability to dig (whenever applicable) into the scientific, philosophical, legal, sociological and psychological foundations of what is being taught. It is important that teachers are able to relate whatever they are discussing to other  fields. Such an ability would enable teachers to enrich the discussion.

But teaching and learning are complex processes that involve a lot more… not just knowing what to teach and being able to connect a topic to other disciplines. What would make teachers truly competent are the corresponding skills that enable them to effectively teach what they know and make the students learn. Such skills are acquired through training in pedagogy.

Pedagogy is commonly defined as “the art, science, or profession of teaching.” Pedagogy informs teaching strategies, teacher actions, and teacher judgments and decisions by taking into consideration theories of learning, understandings of students and their needs, and the backgrounds and interests of individual students.7

Pedagogy, in a nutshell, tells how best to teach and how best the students learn.

Knowledge and expertise in a field would not make one a teacher. Pedagogical skills are needed. Competent teachers SHOULD know, not just the subject matter, but how to  set learning objectives, motivate students, design learning activities, facilitate learning, construct assessment, and assess learning.

In addition, another skill through which competence of 21st century teachers is gauged, is how extensive and effective do they apply technology (computer) to teaching and learning.

Aside from competence, the other dimension of teacher’s professionalism this article is exploring is behavior.

Teachers are aware that they should behave in accordance to the ethical standards set for the teaching profession. They are expected to speak, act and dress accordingly. Barberpointed this out when he identifies as one of the main characteristics of professional behavior  a “high degree of self-control of behavior through codes of ethics.”

But the behavior dimension of professionalism among teachers goes beyond proper manner and decorum.

Another characteristic of professional behavior identified by Barber is “orientation primarily to community interest rather than to  individual self-interest.” It is no secret that teachers sacrifice a lot to help their students. Teachers work long hours and the practice a lot of patience. As Orlin puts it, “ I see it (teaching) as an act of self-sacrifice, as a hard path undertaken for the greater good.”9

Teachers also know that they need to keep learning. They need to have a continuing professional development plan for them to be better-equipped in dealing with the challenges of the profession. They need to keep abreast with the current trends and innovations in the field of education.

There are also general teaching behaviors which, according to a study, are the most important for effective teaching (as perceived by students). Hativa identified five (5) of them, namely, making the lessons clearorganizedengaging/interestingmaintaining interactions, and rapport with students.10

Two (2) of the said general teaching behaviors (making the lessons clear and organized) are related to the first dimension of teacher professionalism (competence and skills). The rest are more indicative of the second dimension (behavior).

Teacher professionalism strongly implies the demands and complexities of teaching making it harder to understand why the profession doesn’t get due recognition. Teaching is not just any profession. Not just anybody can be a teacher. Not just anybody can be entrusted the responsibility of developing the mind and body.

 – SDG –


  1. Evans, Linda (2008) Professionalism, professionality and the development of education professionals. British Journal of Educational Studies, 56 (1). pp. 20-38.
  1. Definition of “professionalism” – Oxford English Dictionary
  1. Tichenor, M. S., Tichenor, J. M. (2005). Understanding teachers’ perspectives on professionalism. ERIC.
  1. Boyt, T., Lusch, R. F. ve Naylor, G. (2001). The role of professionalism in determining job satisfaction in professional services: a study of marketing researchers, Journal of Service Research, 3(4), 321-330
  1. Hargreaves, A. (2000). Four ages of professionalism and professional learning. Teachers and Teaching: History and Practice, 6 (2),151-182. 
  1. Baggini, J. (2005). What professionalism means for teachers today? Education Review, 18 (2), 5-11.
  1. Shulman, Lee (1987). “Knowledge and Teaching: Foundations of the New Reform”(PDF). Harvard Educational Review. 15(2): 4–14. Retrieved 12 June 2017.
  1. Barber, B. (1965). Some Problems in the Sociology of the Professions. In K. S. Lynn (Edt.), The Professions in America (pp. 669-688). Boston: Houghton Mifflin.
  1. Orlin, Ben “Teaching As Self Sacrifice.” Match With Bad Drawing. WordPress, March 10, 2014. Web. 19 July, 2017.
  1. Hativa, N. (2014). A pratical approach to designing, operating, and reporting, 2nd, Tel Aviv: Oron Publications.

Source: Professionalism Among Teachers

Tunay Na Kaibigan


Simple ang tanong. Kaylan masasabi na ang taong tinatawag kang kapatid, kapuso, kapamilya o kabarkada ay tunay mo ngang kaibigan at hindi nagpapanggap lamang? Nakakatiyak ka ba na ang fren o BFF mo, na minsan ay tinatawag mong sister o brother, kahit hindi kayo magkadugo, ay tunay mong kasangga at pinagmamalasakitan ka?

Tunay ngang napakasarap na magkaroon ng kaibigan. Iyong taong kasama mong tumatawa kapag ikaw ay masaya at kasama mong nagdiriwang kapag ika’y nagtatagumpay. Subalit hindi sa lahat ng pagkakataon ay masaya ka, nakakamit mo ang iyong mga pangarap, at ang takbo ng buhay mo ay sumasangayon sa iyong kagustuhan. May mga panahong igugupo ka ng kalungkutan at kabiguan. Ito ang pagkakataong kaylangan mo ng balikat na iiyakan – ng taong kadamay.

Ang kaibigan bang kasama mo kapag masaya ka at masagana ay nandoon rin kapag gumagapang ka sa balag ng pighati at kabiguan? Kung siya ay nandoon kasama mong sumasagwan habang ang bangka mo ay tumatawid sa lawa ng kalungkutan at paghihirap ay mapalad ka sa dahilang meron kang tunay na kaibigan.

Hindi kasi lahat ng taong akala mo ay kaibigan ay tunay na nagmamalasakit sa iyo at handa kang damayan sa abot ng kanilang makakaya. May mga tao na gusto ka lamang kasama sa lakaran, inuman, kainan o kantahan. Wika nga sa English, “friends in good times,” lalo na nga kung ikaw ang taya.

Marahil narinig mo na rin ang idyom sa wikang English na “fair-weather friends.” Sila ang mga taong ituturing kang kaybigan kung may mapapala sila.

May mga tao kasing ang pananaw sa pakikipagkaibigan ay nakabase sa tanong na ,“Ano ba ang pakinabang ko sa iyo?” Kung merong mapapala mula sa iyo ay babarkadahin ka upang sa panahon na may kaylangan sila ay tatawagin o pupuntahan ka.

May ganyan bang tao na kaybigan ang tawag sa iyo? Mag-ingat ka dahil siya ay manggagamit – isang “user.” Maaala-ala ka lang ng ganyang uri ng kaibigan sa pagkakataon na may hihingin siyang pabor o kaya nalulungkot siya kaya kaylangan ng kausap. Kabilang ka sa listahan ng mga tinatawag niyang kaibigan dahil may mapapala sa iyo. Paminsan-minsan na may gagawin siyang pabor para sa iyo para hindi siya halatain. Pero kung lilimiin mo nang mas malalim ay makikita mo na hindi “symbiotic” ang uri ng relasyon ninyo. Makikita mong para siyang “parasite” na gusto laging kumabig. Hindi ka naman tanga para hindi mo mapansin na ang taong iyan ay  makasarili at nuknukan ng gulang.

Hindi sa naghihintay ka ng kapalit sa mga bagay na ginagawa mo sa iyong kaibigan. Hindi rin materyal na bagay ang pinaguusapan dito. Ang pagtulong natin sa mga kaybigan sa ano mang paraan ay pagpapakita natin ng kagandahang loob. At lahat ng tao, ano man ang estado sa buhay, may pinagaralan man o wala, mahirap man o mayaman, ay alam na dapat sinusuklian ang kagandahang loob kahit sa pinakasimpleng paraan. Subalit kung ang taong tinatawag kang kaibigan ay hindi alam iyan dapat eh magisip-isip ka.

Hindi lamang mga kaibigang may kagulangan ang pag-iingatan mo. Baka rin may mga taong traydor na ang tawag din sa iyo ay kaibigan. Sila ang mga taong kapag nakatalikod ka lahat ng baho mo ay isinisiwalat sa iba. Kaya’t kilatisin mo ng mabuti kung ang pinagsasabihan mo ng iyong mga problema at mga hinaing sa buhay ay mapagkakatiwalaan o hindi.

Mahirap magkaroon ng kaibigang makati ang dila na ang kaligayahan ay siraan ang mga tinatawag niyang kaibigan sa iba niyang mga kakilala. Kaya’t mag-ingat ka. Hindi nangangahulugan na kapag ang kaibigan mo may pinag-aralan na siya ay matinong tao. Hindi ibig sabihin na kung ang tumatawag sa iyo ng kaibigan ay pala-simba, nagnonobena at nagrorasaryo na siya ay isang santo o santa.  Ang siste nga ay kung habang nasa simbahan mismo kayo ay kung ano-ano ang kanyang pinupuna at sinasabi sa mga taong hindi naman ninyo kakilala eh magisip-isip ka na.

Ano pa ba ang ibang uri ng kaibigan ang dapat iwasan?

May mga kaibigan ka ba na sa tuwing kausap mo ay puro tsismis at kasiraan ng ibang tao ang laging bukang-bibig? Tandaan mo ito – kapag wala ka at kausap niya ay ibang tao, isa ka sa mga pinaguusapan nila. Pinagpipyestahan nila ang mga problema at sikreto mo. Tiyak iyan.

May kabarkada ka ba na kapag kausap mo ay puro pamimintas at paghuhusga ang ginagawa sa iyo? Iwasan mo na siya. Okay lang na sabihan ka sa mga maling ginagawa mo pero alam mo kung ano ang pagkakaiba ng pagpapayo upang itama mo ang isang pagkakamali  at pagsasabi ng pagkakamali mo para pintasan at husgahan ka.

At kung may kaibigan ka na minemenos ka’t minamaliit, aba, ora mismo, lumayo ka. Ang tunay na kaybigan ay dapat pinapalakas ang ating loob at naniniwala na may kakayanan tayo. Gusto nilang tayo ay magtagumpay at makamit natin ang ating mga pangarap sa buhay.

Meron kasing mga grupo ng magkakaibigan na kapag sama-sama sila ay kaylangang merong isa sa kanila na pagtsismisan, merong hahamak-hamakin at merong pagtatawanan. Sa madaling sabi, kaylangan nila ng “punching bag” – ng kaybigang pagtitripan. Huwag kang pumayag na ikaw iyon.  Umiwas ka sa ganyang uri ng grupo. Mero’t merong kang mahahanap na mga kaybigan na may paggalang at tunay na pagmamalasakit sa bawat isa – mga kabarkadang alam ang pagkakaiba ng biro sa lait.

Hindi tayo perpekto. Walang taong perpekto. Kaya’t kaylangan natin, bukod sa pamilya, ng mga kaibigan na tutulong upang maiangat natin ang ating mga sarili. Iyon bang susuporta sa pakikipagtunggali natin sa mga hamon ng buhay. Hindi iyong lalo pang magpapabigat sa ating mga dalahin. Kaylangan natin ng mga kaibigang bukal sa loob ang pagtulong at hindi pansariling interes lang ang iniisip,  kaybigan marunong magbalik ng kagandahang loob, sa ano mang paraan, hindi mo man ito hinihingi.

Kaylangang natin ng mga kaibigan na nakatampuhan mo man, may nasabi man kayong hindi maganda sa isa’t-isa, sa paglipas ng panahon, kapag muli kayong nagkita, nagkapaliwanagan ay muli ninyong yayakapin ang isa’t-isa. Ganyan ang tunay na kaybigan. Minsan nga, matindi man ang tampuhan ninyo, kapag nagkita kayong muli at nagyakapan ay ni hindi na kaylangan ng paliwanagan.

Isa pang palatandaan ng tunay na pagkakaibigan ay ang pagiging bukal sa puso ng pagtulong sa bawat isa. Hindi na kaylangang hingin, hindi na kaylangang sabihin. Ano mang bagay na makakatulong ay kusang loob na ibinibigay o ginagawa natin para sa ating mga kaybigan.

Ang tunay na kaibigan ay iyong naaalala ka kahit walang kaylangan, iyong tipong bigla kang yayayaing mag-kape dahil nami-miss ka.

Huling tanong, “Anong uri ka ng kaibigan, tunay o nagpapanggap?”


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